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When we feel like closing our hearts,
generosity can take us beyond fear and help us keep them open. Our wisdom
and awareness will tell us what generosity might be in any particular
situation. Knowing what the situation demands depends on generously giving
ourselves enough space to see clearly, which in turn depends on not
holding anything back for ourselves. The true point of generosity is to
free ourselves from wanting anything. If we are free from wanting anything
for ourselves -- including confirmation, peace, freedom, and
enlightenment --- it is possible to give away anything we might
have.
Here are some ideas about how to be
generous:
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Generosity is allowing yourself to
feel your feelings -- even if you think they're selfish. Acting
out your feelings, however, may not always be generous.
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Generosity is giving yourself time
to feel the space around any situation. It's inherently contained in
taking a deep breath. In many cases, being silent is a form of
generosity.
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Generosity can be honoring your own
needs first and then looking to the needs of others. It's giving
yourself good food, rest, and relaxation when you need it. It is
making friends with yourself. This may require accepting qualities,
opinions, and actions that are beneath the standard of your internal
judge.
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It's very generous to become aware
of your story lines and learn to jump over them. The best way to do
this is to touch in with the present moment. You can do this with your
senses.
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Generosity is the willingness to
connect with others. It is also allowing others their opinions,
without trying to change them.
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It's generous to let your children
be themselves. Notice when you're trying to control them. Are you
acting for their safety, education, or well-being-- or for your
own convenience?
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Generosity is knowing when to let
things be, without trying to "fix" them. It's knowing that
truth is more satisfying than happiness.
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Generosity is saying yes instead of
no. This may mean activating your will and going beyond habitual
patterns of addiction, depression, anger, and other negative emotions.
It's being willing to open yourself to yourself.
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There's generosity in not
expressing every complaint. Can you see an opportunity in whatever
arises?
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It's generous to be satisfied with
what you have.
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Generosity is allowing life to flow
through your being.
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Above all, it's being fully
involved with whatever you are doing.
One teaching says, "Generosity is
the virtue that produces peace." Try it and see if you think this is
true.
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